“It doesn’t make any difference what genitals someone has!” A very sneery teenager barked this statement at me during a discussion on gender identity and the recent London Pride parade. We were referencing a group of women who had moved to the front of the parade and carried banners protesting lesbian erasure from the LGBT movement and the swelling tide of transgender dogma which says lesbianism could, even should, involve biological males.
Much has already been written about the reasons for this action [*1]. I’m not a lesbian and it wouldn’t be fair of me to speak for the women involved. However, were I in their place, I would certainly feel betrayed and abandoned by a movement which was supposed to protect my rights and safety. Lesbianism means “Female homosexual”; women who are same-sex attracted. It does not involve males or male genitalia. If even the LGBT community itself will attack and pillory women for making what should be such obvious and basic statements, we know something is rotten in the state of Denmark.
Over recent months I have seen lesbians vilified and abused for trying to define their own sexual boundaries, described as Nazis for daring to suggest that their sexuality does not include male reproductive organs. I have read articles you’d swear were satire describing how lesbians should learn to love ‘girl dick’ [*2]. One of them, published in Autostraddle [*3], even schools lesbians in how to stimulate an erect penis and perform fellatio. There is a YouTube video in which an older transwoman encourages a nervously giggling ‘babydyke’ (their word) to have sex with ‘trans ladies’ [*4]. The infamous Riley J Dennis makes YouTube videos telling lesbians that rejecting penis makes them ‘transphobic’ and likens having a ‘genital preference’ when dating to being a racist [*5].
What makes me really uncomfortable is that most of these articles and videos are aimed at the young. I can’t imagine the effect they must have on young lesbians who are only just beginning to understand and explore their sexuality. Shaming young women for asserting their own sexual boundaries…? Biological males coercing and blackmailing young women into having sex with them…? In any other context, we’d call this grooming.
I’ve heard from lesbian friends that they have been forced to allow physical males who ‘identify as lesbian’ into their clubs and organisations etc. Refusing them access means losing the funding they receive from the very LGBT charities which are supposed to be supporting their right to be same-sex attracted. I understand there are many physical males who litter lesbian dating sites. I’ve heard time and time again about lesbians being abused, bullied and even physically threatened for daring to refuse biological males as potential partners. Every time I log onto social media, I see some man raging against the lesbians who won’t include him in their lesbianism.
Believing that women must centre men in their sexuality is the epitome of male entitlement. However, I think there is another very obvious reason behind this endless, rabid insistence that lesbianism must include physical males; if lesbians are allowed to refuse penis, we must acknowledge that the penis is not female. And that is a heresy which cannot go unpunished.